My friend,
I am thinking that exactly 2 years ago, i was in your situation, waiting for my wife to leave our house… our separation came as an unexpected shock and i felt that my world was falling apart. I also remember that a good friend was there for me. He had gone through a divorce and he gave me hope. He told me that i would survive this and i would find happiness again. A part of me believed him but a part of me wanted to skip the hard part, the inevitable crying, the loneliness, the emptiness. A part of me wanted to skip the anxieties, the struggle and go right to happiness. But life is not like that… Everything happens for a reason and one must learn to take life one step at a time, one day at a time, one moment at a time.
You will soon enter a new life and you will be granted a new identity: seperated, single father of two wonderful kids. It is really a new adventure that will be filled with sadness initially but soon filled with a calm sense of freedom and occasionnaly you will find unexepected gifts from unexpected people.
The hardship is inevitable but it will transform you. Today, i am a better man and a better father because of this. Through the pain, i have found myself and now, i own my happiness.
I have just a few words of advice for you:
Face your fears.
Never be afraid to cry and ask for help.
Keep your eyes and your heart open.
When hesitating or when unsure, always say YES to life. Making a mistake is better than not doing anything.
One last thing… stay who you are.
You are a good man with a great heart.
You will find happiness again. No doubt.
I am there for you when you need to talk.
Original post Facebook, October 2017
Martin Pham Dinh 